So I know that Valentine’s Day is a corporate, capitalist, money-making scam that seeks to exploit our vulnerabilities and weaknesses for commercial gain. I think by now that we all – or at least most of us – do. But, nonetheless, the phenomenon remains a significant entity within most of Western culture. I mean you Read more about Happy straight-romance day[…]
Human nature is an odd beast, isn’t it? It never fails to surprise me how it’s possible to know and understand some of the patterns that we exhibit, and yet still fail to predict or properly account for them. For example, I know myself well enough by now to realise that I’ll leap on any Read more about Me too.[…]
The holiday season is upon us, and I know just how difficult that can be for so many, especially those in the queer community. And I think that this year is perhaps especially difficult, given the nature of some of the events that have taken place in 2016. For many of us, end-of-year reflection and Read more about Things I learned in 2016[…]
So it’s Asexual Awareness Week this week – which means it’s probably fitting that I spend a bit of time musing on the whole ace thing. I fly the queer flag loudly and proudly, as I’m sure you know by now, and I claim a good few letters from the ol’ LGBTQIA+ alphabet soup in Read more about Ace is the loneliest number[…]
Some days I can’t help but wonder, “Does it ever get any simpler?” Not all days. But some of them. The struggle is something that’s difficult to properly articulate – I suppose that’s always the case when you’re dealing with mixed feelings and not unequivocal ones, shades of gray rather than black or white, spectra Read more about Core of conflict[…]
I waited a long time for an accurate identity document. 50 weeks, to be exact. I spoke about that entire ordeal in detail a few weeks back (and there’s also a rather poignant chapter on the intimidating process of applying for gender marker amendment at the Department of Home Affairs in my book, Always Anastacia). Read more about Degree by degree[…]
This is something I’ve been meaning to do for a while. If you look around the internet, you will find a good few people who write and share letters to their younger selves. And a lot of these leave me in tears. The pieces are often reflective, emotive, deeply intimate, and with a unique vulnerability to Read more about A Letter to Myself[…]
Continued from Part One July 2015 The first day of the rest of my life. I can’t quite believe it, it’s surreal. Not to have to wear the mask anymore, it… leaves me speechless. And also in tears. I cry, a lot. Making up for lost time when I never used to let myself. I Read more about 2015 – My Year in Review, Part 2[…]
They say that lesbian dating is a lot like finding a job in 2015 – either you need to do it online, or you need to be referred by someone. Dating is hard for everyone in this day and age. And it’s even harder if you’re trans. I’m the first to admit that being “in Read more about Undateable[…]