Don’t Hate Me Because I’m Trans

This isn’t a pleasant post to write, but it’s one that I really do need to. I often talk about the struggles of being trans – the internal dialogues and conflicts, the difficult decisions, the hoops that need to be jumped through. There’s a lot of soul-searching, and introspection that accompanies the process of transition. Read more about Don’t Hate Me Because I’m Trans[…]

If It Makes You Happy, Then Why The Hell Are You So Sad?

I’ve mentioned this briefly before, but I’ve done a lot of coming out. It’s eased up a little bit now, sure, because I’m open and public and most people know that I’m trans (or they find out soon enough, without me having to do anything). Though even now, I still find occasions when I need to Read more about If It Makes You Happy, Then Why The Hell Are You So Sad?[…]

The Price of My Trans Body

I often write about things like body positivity, and how it’s okay to be trans – how it doesn’t make us worse as human beings. I also speak a lot about the things I’ve gained through transition, and how much my life has changed for the better because of it. I say these things because Read more about The Price of My Trans Body[…]

A Letter to Myself

This is something I’ve been meaning to do for a while. If you look around the internet, you will find a good few people who write and share letters to their younger selves. And a lot of these leave me in tears. The pieces are often reflective, emotive, deeply intimate, and with a unique vulnerability to Read more about A Letter to Myself[…]

Why Trans Isn’t Lesser, Part 1. Or, “How Being Trans Made Me a Better Person”

It’s not easy to be trans. It really, really isn’t. There’s a whole bunch of stuff you have to think about that the average cis person never even needs to consider. And transitioning? That’s pretty darn hardcore, let me tell you. Definitely not something to be taken lightly. So, that means, that for the average Read more about Why Trans Isn’t Lesser, Part 1. Or, “How Being Trans Made Me a Better Person”[…]

Why is Gender So Important, Anyway?

So I hear this one a lot. “I’ve never really thought about gender”, or “Gender just doesn’t matter to me”, or “I don’t ever spend any time thinking about my gender”. I get where people are coming from, when they say this. I really do. They see me, living my trans life, and all the Read more about Why is Gender So Important, Anyway?[…]

A Love Letter on my First Anniversary

  Today marks one year since I first started taking my hormone replacement therapy. Up front, I need to say this – no one’s trans identity needs medical intervention to validate it. There are a lot of trans people who don’t want medical intervention, and that is not something that anyone needs to justify. I Read more about A Love Letter on my First Anniversary[…]

Blame it on the Estrogen

Personal life update: It’s been a really busy week for me. I moved out of the flat I was staying in this week. And let me tell you, that was an exhausting process. It’s no wonder moving ranks so highly on most lists of Most Stressful Things Ever. I know I’ve done more moving than I’d Read more about Blame it on the Estrogen[…]

Body image, or My Blog – Swimsuit Edition

Body image is a really weird thing if you’re trans. I mean, body image is a really weird thing even if you aren’t… but maybe it’s fair to say that it’s an especially weird thing if you’re trans. And especially if you’re a trans person who has dysphoria – because not all of us do. Read more about Body image, or My Blog – Swimsuit Edition[…]