Cleaning house

It’s said that moving home is one of life’s most stressful experiences, and I think I’m quite inclined to agree with that. By now, I’ve mostly lost count of exactly how many times I’ve moved, but each time I do, I certainly think it’s been quite enough. Being a medical doctor, and working in multiple Read more about Cleaning house[…]

For those that stand by our sides

I spend a lot of time on this blog discussing issues and experiences that affect me, as a transgender woman. It makes sense, of course – the old adage does tell us to “write what you know”. And, in this day and age especially, when prejudice is very much alive and well, I think speaking about Read more about For those that stand by our sides[…]

Seeing double

I’ve certainly spoken before about double standards; generally those that are found in the context of navigating society as a very open, visibly queer or trans person. For example, how it’s much more difficult for us to access safe & dignified healthcare, or how many hoops we have to jump through in order to get identity Read more about Seeing double[…]

Fake it ’til you make it. Or, “All by my selfie”

Somewhere close to the middle of December last year, I started on a little project – or, I suppose more accurately, I began a little challenge – to post a fresh selfie on social media every day. It’s not a new idea, by any stretch of the imagination. In fact, a few people in my Read more about Fake it ’til you make it. Or, “All by my selfie”[…]

Happy straight-romance day

So I know that Valentine’s Day is a corporate, capitalist, money-making scam that seeks to exploit our vulnerabilities and weaknesses for commercial gain. I think by now that we all – or at least most of us – do. But, nonetheless, the phenomenon remains a significant entity within most of Western culture. I mean you Read more about Happy straight-romance day[…]

On the run

CW: This post contains brief mentions of eating disorders and self-harm.     I’ve spoken before about the complicated relationship that I have with my body, and how body image for me is a complex and intricate network that involves aspects of dysphoria, depression, disordered eating and self-harm. I’ve also mentioned in some of those Read more about On the run[…]

Food for thought

CW: eating disorder, self-harm

This post speaks in detail about disordered eating and self-harm. Please be advised before reading and exercise due caution.

Resources and help are available at HelpGuide, LifeLine, and NEDA. Also consider The Trevor Project (1-866-488-7386) and Suicide Prevention Lifeline. In South Africa, Triangle Project runs a helpline on 021-712-6699, and SADAG at 0800-567-567.


Things I learned in 2016

The holiday season is upon us, and I know just how difficult that can be for so many, especially those in the queer community. And I think that this year is perhaps especially difficult, given the nature of some of the events that have taken place in 2016. For many of us, end-of-year reflection and Read more about Things I learned in 2016[…]

My Transgender Cookbook (or, 1001 Recipes for Being Trans)

I’m not sure whether or not you knew this about me, but I love to cook. Really, really love it. I didn’t figure it out until I was a young adult – before I turned 21, I don’t think I ever set foot in the kitchen to make anything more complicated than a slice of Read more about My Transgender Cookbook (or, 1001 Recipes for Being Trans)[…]