IDAHOT, and my life in words

So the 17th of May is the International Day Against Homphobia, Transphobia, and Biphobia (IDAHOT). You can read more about it here if you like. The theme for this year’s IDAHOT is “Mental Health and well-being”. To be honest, I don’t know where to start. I’ve spoken recently about my own well-being in terms of mental Read more about IDAHOT, and my life in words[…]

When self-love fails

CW: Discussion around depression, severe dysphoria and negative body image, self-harm and suicidality.   I’ve spoken before about how body positivity is not a simple thing for trans people. And there’s a lot of pressure on us from all sides to feel good about ourselves – body positivity, sex positivity, self-care. These are buzzwords in Read more about When self-love fails[…]

P is for Privilege. And Passing. And Peeing.

This just in – the world still hates trans people. Since it’s become less and less socially acceptable to beat on the gays and lesbians (not to suggest that doesn’t still happen, because it does), right-wing bigots have needed to find somewhere else to direct their hatred and toxicity, and the target is trans people. By Read more about P is for Privilege. And Passing. And Peeing.[…]

Ace up my sleeve – Asexuality 101

So if you follow my antics, either here on my blog, or on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter or wherever else I might appear from time to time, then you already know a few things about me. I’m kind of a complicated girl, and I have a lot of different facets to my identity. I’m binary trans. Read more about Ace up my sleeve – Asexuality 101[…]

Don’t Hate Me Because I’m Trans

This isn’t a pleasant post to write, but it’s one that I really do need to. I often talk about the struggles of being trans – the internal dialogues and conflicts, the difficult decisions, the hoops that need to be jumped through. There’s a lot of soul-searching, and introspection that accompanies the process of transition. Read more about Don’t Hate Me Because I’m Trans[…]

If It Makes You Happy, Then Why The Hell Are You So Sad?

I’ve mentioned this briefly before, but I’ve done a lot of coming out. It’s eased up a little bit now, sure, because I’m open and public and most people know that I’m trans (or they find out soon enough, without me having to do anything). Though even now, I still find occasions when I need to Read more about If It Makes You Happy, Then Why The Hell Are You So Sad?[…]

The Price of My Trans Body

I often write about things like body positivity, and how it’s okay to be trans – how it doesn’t make us worse as human beings. I also speak a lot about the things I’ve gained through transition, and how much my life has changed for the better because of it. I say these things because Read more about The Price of My Trans Body[…]

A Letter to Myself

This is something I’ve been meaning to do for a while. If you look around the internet, you will find a good few people who write and share letters to their younger selves. And a lot of these leave me in tears. The pieces are often reflective, emotive, deeply intimate, and with a unique vulnerability to Read more about A Letter to Myself[…]